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One never forgets the Cheap Date – and the several dates I had as a young 20-something with Mr. Tightwad had me going from embarrasment to mortification to major turn-off after only three dates.
How cheap? On the rare occasion I saw him reach for his wallet, I watched him lift the gas hose high up in the air and literally strangle the last drop of fuel into his miserly car…for $3 worth of gas.
The topic of cheap dates is a particularly fascinating one, and a subject vigorously discussed many social media sites.
On Bolde.com, titled 10 Of The Worst Things About Dating Cheap Guys, author Chrisa Theodoraki lists some of the traits of cheap men, including:
1. They’re not just impolite, they’re immature: Even if you do speak up about your thoughts, feelings or needs, their stinginess will always find ways to resurface in the form of moodiness, whining, and passive aggressiveness.
2. They’re absolutely fine with taking, but giving in any way is just too much for them.
3. They’re control freaks: Guys whose whole evenings are ruined because they had to “waste money” on a meal or a movie they didn’t like are losers who will ruin your evening and will try to make you feel responsible for it.
4. They take you for granted and don’t appreciate you. You might be surprised to hear that those penny-pincher guys who never buy you dinner but spend ridiculous amounts of money on stuff like kayaking gear or a collection of vintage Nikes.
5. It’s never really about the money — they simply don’t respect you. The cheapest guys can easily be the ones with the good jobs and big salaries.
Maybe he’s not cheap, but forgetful? Thetalko.com offers a few warning signs: He forgets his wallet. Often. He doesn’t care about value – just the price tag. He asks for discounts, especially in restaurants, where complaints for breaks include the food was delivered cold to the appetizers arrived too quickly. He wants to share meals. He makes excuses for tipping.
Womensday.com points out that money seems to be the sticky date subject – and one of the top reasons couples break up: “While flashy shows of overspending may indicate someone who is foolish with his funds, a date who keeps his wallet on total lockdown is also flying financial red flags.” They include coffee dates and nothing more – over and over again – to splitting main dishes, to using a food coupon….on a first date.
Meanwhile, Elitedaily.com notes your cheap date may actually be a keeper in the long run: The guy who holds his money close may be thinking (and working) on a master plan. Or maybe not!
Now, before everyone starts complaining that picking up the bill should not solely fall on the guy, well, that’s not what we’re talking about. Sure it’s good to go dutch, or split the responsibilities event, especially if one partner is making more money than the other.
What we’re talking about is the serial skinflint, the descendant of Mr. Scrooge, the original penny pincher.
Easily recognizable by the fact his hands never leave his pockets. And he rarely pays for anything.